"Home is where the heart is"
Not sure who that quote is by. But right now I am still uncertain of where that home is. After spending the past year in Vancouver, making lots of new friends and then just heading back to Winnipeg (not home) to potentially never talk to a lot of these people again.
Now there are two different ways to talk about what I am doing:
A) I am going back home.
B) I am leaving home.
Thoughts on option A.
As I am going back home to friends and family, but are they really the same as when I left, probably not. But that is not the part I am worried about. I think it is great that people change and figure themselves out. I am worried that everyone has stayed the same and that I have changed (at least I would like to think so, would it not have been a big waste of my time had I not changed and grown as a person at all). I am afraid that as I go home I will have changed and everyone else will still be the same. That is my bigger fear.
Thoughts on option B.
I have been living in Vancouver for the past year now. I have made friends here, and tried new things, attempting to figure things out living away from "home" for a while. Because I never planned to stay here for longer then a year, does that mean that all these friendships were a waste of time, since everyone claims to have started checking out before we got here anyways. Or maybe if I was staying they would actually be friends that haven't checked out already anyways.
If it does turn out that no one has changed and that with friends here it may not be worth trying to keep in touch because I was just a temporary person to hang out with for the time being, I find myself in a place where I don't really have somewhere to belong. Is it really healthy for me to constantly move around not knowing where home is, or with working for kids is it good for them to have people constantly coming in and out of their lives?
This is a small portion of my thoughts it would be good to hear yours.
4 comments:
If home is where the hear is, then your home right where ever your heart is. Your in a complicated spot my friend. What ever you do you just need to keep in contact with your Friends where ever you are. thats all i can figure out.
Brother....we aren't tempory friends! Even when we are on opps side of the world next year!
whoever said "home is where the heart is" was an idiot.
if life has taught me anything, changes happen all the time and people are constantly coming and going - but the true friends will
always be a part of your life. Its through all the different people we meet in our lives that shapes who we become.
If that sounds really cheesy and lame its because it is. If you want legit advice go to wikipedia...or better yet conservapedia
home is where the food is....
home is where you visit in your pajamas...home is where you use bad words to describe how you really feel......where you put your feet on the coffee table without appologizing...where you go to do laundry while you pray and eat chips...home is where you want to be when you hurt or are dissapointed...home is where you lay your head in peace...home is where you are totally loved and accepted for who you are. some people never find this place. maybe we find home in what we offer to others?
i understand your thoughts on change. believe it or not, i was roughly your age (had just turned 20) when i moved to thompson. we were there for 8 years. moving away was a very good thing for me personally. i learnt alot.
as for moving around...you will have to be the judge of what is healthy for you. as for the kids, it would be great if you could be their best friend forever but the reality is people/friends move on. what is important is that what they expierence with you is something they can genuinely replicate with some one else. as children they are mostly on the recieving end but as they grow and mature they move (by what they learnt from you) to the giving end and if things are healthy as they become adults some of those relationships grow into satisfying friendships, inter dependant relationships, community, family, home. which brings us back to where this all began!
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